Change. Verb. The process of becoming different.
But most of us are more comfortable where we are. And the fact of the matter is, we won't change until it's to painful to stay the same. So we will continue to fall into the same potholes until it's less painful to go around them.
Most are afraid of change because they like the predictability and sureness of their current situation. When we know what is coming, there are certain feelings of control and preparedness. Our habits require no special thought or behavior. They just happen. But the unknown can be traumatic and debilitating. So when change is forced on us, many respond with a fight or flight response. It could be a feeling of frustration, fear, or anger.
However, if we would stop and think about it for a moment, we would realize that change is inevitable. It happens all the time. In fact, most of the time change is such a subtle part of life, many don't recognize it until weeks, months, and years after the fact. An infant doesn't grow up overnight, but look at the differences in the child after a week, a month, or even three months. But look how society has changed. From the decade of the 80's to the 90's, there were tremendous changes in pop-culture. Music took a new form. Hair flattened out. Dress styles changed. Then from the 90's to the 2000's. All changed again. Car styles; home styles; town size; traffic flow; radio station format; employers; bosses; colleagues; friends--they all change over time. And while we've noticed it here and there, an honest moment of reflection reveals just how much has changed without our notice.
Maybe the secret to identifying potholes ahead is to acknowledge that they are there. When we are aware of the fact that they are coming up, we have an opportunity to look at other options. We can then make a choice that leaves us with a feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment. For though we may dislike change, when we are allowed full or part ownership of the change, it makes the transition more bearable.
But then, if we were allowed to be a part of the process, we might find we like the change. Who knows, we might even begin to embrace it.